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  • Bonita Nuttall

Rituals Create Authentic Connection

๐——๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ-๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฅ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น?

Without one, it can lead to lack of confidence, focus, clarity, ability to manage your state, ability to articulate and speak succinctly, ability to cope when things don't go according to plan and the list continues!

Just as world-class athletes have pre-games ritual, I believe every presenter needs one too.

"๐—ฅ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€ ๐—–๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—”๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป"

I don't mean wearing the same pair of underwear repeatedly without washing them for a season of conferences, as they do in baseball. ๐Ÿคข That will NOT build connection. ๐Ÿ˜‚

๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป, ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ?

๐—–๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—ฆ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฏ๐˜†, ๐—ฃ๐—ต.๐——., ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐˜€๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜ for professional athletes says, โ€œRituals allow you to create a pathway to ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ your mind and body and feel in control during a time where there are a lot of unknowns. [Then] we are more empowered to respond and make effective choices."

The Haka, performed by the All Blacks, is said to move the players, from "civilian" to the intensity of a rule-bound battle on โ€˜sacredโ€™ ground. Let alone what it does to its opponents!

๐™„ ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™˜๐™๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก๐™จ ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข ๐™ž๐™ฉ!!

Gary, a third-degree black belt in taekwondo. Before he puts on his dobok, he'd stops and kisses his belt, then ties it.

When asked about it, he says, 'Kissing the belt first is actually to honor it, set an intention and say, โ€œI will do my best today while wearing this, no matter what comes my way.โ€

๐—ฅ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐˜‚๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ธ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.

So what do they include? Could be:


1. Music - your theme song

2. Vocal and body warm up

3. Deep breathing exercises

4. Power Posing (Professor Amy Cuddy's work)

5. Do you have something special that is symbolic that you carry?


I love a good ritual! I do all of the above, and more before performing. What are some of your favourite rituals that you perform and why?





๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฐ๐—น๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฝ!


Tackle the 3 main areas in your ritual:

1. Mind - meditation and creating meaningful statements for yourself help to shift state effectively


2. Body - warm up your voice with vocal exercises. Stretch your body so that you are freer on stage, or when moving on stage

3. Emotions - music is your guide here and can evoke inspiration get you amped up to nail your presentation!

Let me know your thoughts. Do you have a ritual? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ


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