We've all experienced heart break or suffered loss at some time in our lives. Whether it's been through a break-up, loss of a loved one, a pet or meeting disappointment and perceived failure.
Sadly, we've been conditioned to believe that sadness, grief and tears should be avoided at all costs. That we'd be better off without them and life would be happier, fuller and richer if we'd never met them.
I too have met sorrow a number of times along my path in life and oftentimes wondered how what seemed like such a cruel, painful experience could ever serve any greater purpose, or whether it was just a harsh reality of being human.
But there's a line in the poem 'Joy & Sorrow' by Kahlil Gibran, which you'll hear in the video below that absolutely stole my heart, and it gently reminded me of how joy and sorrow go hand in hand. How together, they elevate us to experience the even richer, fuller and happier existence available to us.
This poem has supported me through some challenging times in my life. If you feel it could support someone else in the same way, please feel free to share x
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Joy & Sorrow
THEN a woman said, Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was
oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more
joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was
burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit the very wood
that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you
shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.” But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced. When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.